How do you feel about being vulnerable? What if I told you that vulnerability is actually a superpower?
Over the past couple of weeks I’ve had a deep dive into impostor syndrome. Doing all the things that usually help; the guilt I was feeling was overwhelming. I’ve been running classes, coaching clients, developing material for our membership site and feeling like a total fraud. Eventually, I decided I needed time off but instead of feeling better, I felt worse. On International Women’s Day, I went to write a post for Facebook and realised that pretending I was feeling fine wasn’t helping anyone. I know I’m not the only person feeling like this, in fact, we all feel this way at some point. I decided to be completely honest about what was going on. I wanted to take the post down a hundred times, but I left it. Embracing my vulnerability was a relief, and finally, I started to feel better.
Why vulnerability is strength
To admit we are struggling or to ask for help, we have to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is something most of us find terrifying. What will people think if you admit how you’re really feeling? Will people judge you? Will people think that you are a whiner? Honestly … perhaps they will … but that is about them, their own set of beliefs and their own fear of being vulnerable. It takes strength to say that something needs to change and sometimes, it is the only way for that change to happen.
Why vulnerability is truth
When you can be vulnerable around other people, you make a much more sincere and honest connection with them. If someone trusts you enough to be vulnerable around you, there is no greater complement. If you can allow yourself to admit your vulnerability, you are also developing a much closer relationship with yourself.
Why vulnerability is a superpower
One of the greatest myths is that our comfort zone is comfortable. It is actually a trap. By always operating within your comfort zone, you can lose your sense of purpose, your confidence and self-esteem can drop and you can become fearful of doing new things. To step outside your comfort zone, you have to be vulnerable. To try something new, speak to new people, to embrace the beautiful adventure that life can be, you must be prepared to embrace your vulnerability. Perhaps, vulnerability is the superpower that can make all your dreams come true.
The power of vulnerability
One of the best speakers on this subject is Dr Brene Brown, a researcher and author in the areas of shame, courage and vulnerability. If you haven’t already seen it, I highly recommend her Ted Talk, if you are feeling vulnerable you’ll feel pretty damn proud of yourself by the end of it. As Brene says,
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
- admit how you are feeling to someone you trust
- give yourself a break … talk kindly to yourself
- do things that make you feel better … binge watching Supernatural and reading Marian Keyes helped me loads
- ask yourself what you can do right now to make things easier
- journaling – I do morning pages every (most) days and I’ve also started asking myself the question above in my journal
- prioritise … if you are doing too much, what can you stop doing?
- eat, sleep, do some gentle exercise
- know that this will pass
with love – Donna xox